Tori Spelling and her husband of 17 years Dean McDermott, are going their separate ways. In a post he has since deleted from Instagram, the actor shared a statement announcing their split.
The post read, “It’s with great sadness and a very very heavy heart that after 18 years together and 5 amazing children, that @torispelling and I have decided to go our separate ways, and start a new journey of our own. We will continue to work together as loving parents and guide and love our children through this difficult time. We ask that you all respect our privacy as we take this time to surround our family with love and work our way through this. Thank you all for your support and kindness.”
The post included a picture of Spelling and McDermott from when they were younger and a recent one of them, along with their four children.
The 50-year-old actress and the 56-year-old actor have been married since 2006. A source shared how the couple had seen better with one another recently, especially on their daughter’s birthday.
“Tori and Dean seemed to be in a much better place as of last weekend,” the source said. “They are being respectful of each other and listening to one another more after many hard times and sometimes difficult exchanges. With that being said, they have realized that it was finally time, and both were ready. They feel like their kids are healthy, safe, and good, and now they need to move on. They are trying to move forward as amicably as possible,” they added.
Spelling has yet to make a public statement on the announcement made by McDermott on Instagram. McDermott’s statement comes after Tori Spelling posted about her daughter’s 15th birthday at the Beverly Hilton Hotel. The pictures she posted from the party at the hotel featured all of the couple’s five children as well as both parents.
She wrote in the caption, “Back to my zip code… @beverlyhilton hotel has been such a huge part of my life. Went there with my family growing up and now I’m lucky enough to be able to take my own family. #beverlyhitonhotel gave us the most wonderful experience for @stella_mcdermott08 15th birthday.
Penthouse suite, cabanas, cakes, the works. Tbh it was hard to leave ????. Family time is the best time and @beverlyhilton you continue to always make us feel like true family. We love you! xoxo #90210.”
The couple have five children together Finn, Stella, Liam, Hattie, and Beau. McDermott also has his son Jack from a previous marriage.
“Tori and Dean do things as a family for the sake of their kids and live in the same house but sleep in separate rooms,” the source close to the couple shared. “Tori is more vocal about what goes on between them, and Dean is just completely checked out.”
According to the source, it was McDermott’s alleged continuous infidelities that affected their relationship the most. “Dean has been caught in so many lies and infidelities over the years and Tori is just over it,” the source said. “Dean does not want to get divorced because of financial reasons, and Tori doesn’t want to for the sake of their family.”
“Tori isn’t dating anyone else, and they are trying to figure out the next steps,” the source added.
Last November, when Spelling shared the family’s Holiday Card on Instagram, Dean’s absence was obvious. However, Tori Spelling quickly abated any concern after replying to a fan and telling them it was because Dean had been filming in Canada.
McDermott’s infidelities have not always been discreet. In 2013, multiple outlets reported that he had cheated on Tori Spelling with actress Emily Goodhand while he had been shooting with the latter in Canada.
Spelling and McDermott had also been married when they first met each other. In a 2014 episode of her show True Tori, she shared how both of them had slept with one another the first night that they had met while filming Mind Over Murder in 2005. Spelling had been married to Charlie Shanian, and McDermott had been married to Mary Jane Eustace.
“Maybe I have a hard time with that part [blaming Goodhand] because that’s how I met Dean,” she said on her show when she discussed her husband’s infidelity. “I mean, he was married. … We had sex the first night we met.”
She clarified, however, “It wasn’t like, ‘oh, just get your rocks off, have sex with someone just to have sex,’ you know?” she continued. “It was a conscious decision, like, fell head over heels for you.”
In 2019, McDermott himself talked about his infidelity in his podcast Daddy Issues.
“I really, really wish that I had been given the knowledge of thinking with your head, not your penis,” he shared. “Because I did a lot of thinking with my penis.”
“I’ve been there. I’ve cheated and it’s so not about the person you’re with,” he said. “For me, it wasn’t about T, it was about inadequacies with myself. I felt so bad about myself, I felt like a piece of s**t, I needed to do that to feel some kind of power,” he added.
In 2021, Spelling acknowledged that she and her husband do not sleep in the same room together. “You know what, right now my kids and dogs sleep in my bed,” Spelling said on SiriusXM Radio Andy’s Jeff Lewis Live. “[Dean’s] in a room. Since he left, this is not good, you guys. But since he left, he was gone for six months filming in another country. They all stayed with me. So, I currently still have four in the bedroom with me who have yet to go back to their rooms. They have beds in there and two sleep in bed with me. And pets. Three dogs.”